Cheating is a serious issue that has destroyed many relationships over time. Most times this issue arises from the side of the man and it causes the very popular quote among women “all men are cheats” . But does this make all guys cheats? no i guess . And do you WANT TO KNOW WHY MEN CHEAT? CHECK THIS OUT.
While today’s research confirms an estimate of 25-75% of married men cheating on their loved ones, it reveals that not all men cheat. It also exposes hidden facts about the reasons why men engage in this act of infidelity. Most of these reasons may shock you and here are some psychological evidences to explain the reasons you thought why men cheat.
1. Some men actually cheat to save their marriages.
Many people believes most cheating men are unhappy with their marriages, but this is just a myth. A study by Rutgers University reveals almost 56% of cheating men claims to be happy with their marriages, and in fact, they aren’t looking for a way to opt out of it or will they allow anything to threaten their marriages.
Because most men have challenges solving their relationship problems, they believe another woman may just satisfy their thirst for sexual urge so they go for it. They feel they can live happily with their wives, without longing for anything that displeases her; but they simply leave the real issue unaddressed.
2. They lack discipline but they still love their wives.
You may be wrong if you believe men cheats because they don’t love their wives. Cheating has nothing to do with love. In fact, it has everything to do with discipline. It’s not love that stimulates hormonal vibrations within the body, but sight and touch do. It takes discipline and self-control for a man to overcome the alluring beauty, soft touch and romantic voice of his colleague or female friend. These, of course, must initiate the chemical substances within his body and makes him want to make advancements just to calm this urge down.
3. They don’t want to be over-demanding for sex.
Most men don’t want their wives to find out their weaknesses and use against them. They cheat because they want to avoid being helpless when their wives takes advantage of their weaknesses.
4. Being overly confident of a relationship can lead to cheating too.
Have you ever said to someone you won’t leave them no matter what? So what happened next? I guess he was the one who cheated on you? Sometimes we let confidence drive us into cheating with an assurance that whatever happens we’d still have our relationship intact. That’s a killer belief dear and it doesn’t really help your relationship in any way
When you look at infidelity, it’s a serious problem that can tear beautiful relationships apart in just a moment, and once this betrayal of trust is noticed, it could hardly be built back. So, it is very important to know when a man is cheating on you.
So, how can I spot a cheating man?
Understand the cheating phenomenon
You need to understand showers of love and cheers don’t mean he isn’t a cheat. When men cheat, it doesn’t mean they don’t love you. They simply lack self-discipline or control.
Stop looking for signs or waiting for his misbehavior
Most cheating men aren’t spotted because what we believe as the reasons for cheating are just myths. One of the surest ways to save your marriage is to understand the cheating phenomenon. The subject of cheating is to be studied and understood and not merely looking for signs or misbehavior. One major problem with spotting cheating men is, “you can hardly get them when they already know you’re looking for misbehavior and or faulty signs because they are smart”.
But, what can I do about this?
You must first change the mindset that a cheating man doesn’t love you.
Because he does really and truly love you. Learn to understand the psychology of cheating and endeavors to play your role as a woman to both being friendly and accommodating.
Take responsibility for your contributions in his cheating habit fast and make things right.
No one is beyond redemption especially if you love them so, you must learn to forgive when they sincerely apologize for their misdeeds.
Expect him to change but not so fast.
He will not become a saint at dawn and along the way you have a big role to play in rehabilitating him but keeping your eyes open for changes along the process.
Finally, know when to walk away.
If he doesn’t change after all your efforts, understand it’s time to move on because you deserve to be happy and loved